January 11, 2026

Lesbian Meetup

I went to my very first lesbian meetup group today!! <3 (I’m bi and only interested in women, but, despite the title, it’s for all SSA women). I honestly had such a great time and managed to have a good day despite my mental health challenges.

The women there were all so sweet! Despite the fact that they were much older than me (like Boomers and Gen X), I managed to really experience a sense of community-they even recommended another LGBT group with people my age!! Everybody was so welcoming and understanding. I really got to know each of them through casual conversation and a group activity we all participated in.

We covered many topics; from personal struggles (I didn’t share much of my own), to the oppressive nature of modern technology (esp AI), and seeking validation vs being yourself. I especially resonated with the latter. I grew up very internally driven, but ever since I became exposed to the just downright brutal nature of people online, I’ve come to seek validation much more often, but I don’t want to be that person anymore. I’ve been working so hard to bring back that inner authenticity I fully and unapologetically expressed growing up; when I wasn’t afraid to be myself. The confidence and anti-conformist nature of gyaru has especially really helped me with this and it’s a huge reason why gal means so much to me. I think I have come a long way, but I still have work to do. I don’t want to care about approval anymore; I just want to be me.

Anyways, enough off topic rambling… Like I said, I really had such a great time there! Even with our differences, we were all able to connect. I haven’t felt so liked and accepted in such a long time (except for my autism group meetings). At the end, many of the women hugged me, told me how intelligent they thought I was, that I contributed great discussion points, and that they love my style and self expression.

I came all decked out in my hime gyaru stuff! I especially wanted to show off one of the cute hair accessories I got from the jfashion event I attended not too long ago. <3 I got tons of compliments on my style and I even strutted my stuff around town after the meeting; got told I look like a fairy. XD I really love to show off. ~

I think that’s all I wanted to cover today! Looking forward to more great days in the future. I hope that anybody who reads this has had one as well.